I am a stay at home mum, by choice. That’s what I have always said but the more I think about it maybe the job chose me.

At the beginning of the year I met a friend who I hadn’t seen since I graduated from graduate school. After the usual pleasantries the conversation went something like this:

Friend: So where are you nowadays?

Me: am home

Friend: oooh, you haven’t found a job yet?

Me: I have a job, I am at home with my children (am already grinning at this point because I can see how his face just drops, disappointment written all over it)

Friend: (Not one to give up easily) Not like that, what am asking is where are you using your skills and knowledge from graduate school?

Me: I am using them at home, raising up a godly offspring (my friend is becoming frustrated and soon he’ll be annoyed I can see that)

Friend: So when are you planning on getting a job; when are you getting ordained? (I graduated with a Masters of Divinity in Biblical Studies)

Me: I have a job my dear, I am staying at home and taking care of my children. In regards to ordination, I have made my application and waiting for God to open a door.

Friend: Ok!

Let’s just say, after that conversation I knew our friendship had nosedived for a long time to come.

The conversation above, in its different forms and variations but generally the same questioning, is one I have had with family and friends ever since I completed graduate school one and a half years ago. And the disappointment from most of them (thank God for a few who understand what it is that I am actually doing with my life) is quite obvious. The latest is from an elder lady friend who with concern written all over her face encouraged me to at least get a government job because it is flexible.

I became a stay at home mum maybe a little bit as a result of my previous experience of child loss but mostly because of my desire to be the primary influence in the lives of the my children. I strongly desire to have a godly influence on them and I felt I can effectively do so by being their primary caregiver. God willing, I also hope to home school them, what!, yes I do – but that’s a topic for another day.

So what exactly is my job? To be honest, I have been reflecting on this recently and the more I do the more I realize that when I signed up for this job – stay at home mum – I don’t think I quite understood its width and breadth. What was quite obvious was the mum bit but the rest of the job description that goes along with it was clearly quite oblivious to me. If you know me, then you know that I love being a mum; I thoroughly enjoy the job with all its ups and downs. Flip the coin and you also know that housekeeping (apart from cooking, thank God!) is not among my list of strengths.

However as I continue to learn on the job, I realize that child raising and housekeeping go hand in hand.  Moreover it doesn’t matter how good I get at child raising as long as I neglect housekeeping it chips away at the child raising efforts .

To be continued . . .

0 Comments

  • Keren Posted February 22, 2017 6:35 am

    You write well Joyce, I love your blog already. It is a blessing to be the primary caregiver to your children. Your babies are blessed indeed.

    • Joyce Mwangi Posted February 22, 2017 6:14 pm

      Thanks Keren.
      I am so excited to be doing this. Feel free to share the link with your friends and family.

  • Cathy Posted February 22, 2017 7:09 am

    Looking forward to part 2 already! Thank you for being so honest and open about this. In a different space I also find myself answering questions…not exactly how a person expects

    • Joyce Mwangi Posted February 22, 2017 6:18 pm

      Welcome baby gal!
      Feel free to share the link with your family and friends.

  • Nduta Posted February 22, 2017 8:40 am

    Why oh why would you leave me in suspense like this…
    Waiting eagerly <3

    • Joyce Mwangi Posted February 22, 2017 6:19 pm

      hahahahaha, because suspense ensures that you keep coming back!
      Feel free to share the link with your friends and family.

  • Pauline Posted February 22, 2017 3:12 pm

    Waooo….awesome!! Good job madam Joyce and all the best at the God given job.

  • Joyce Mwangi Posted February 22, 2017 6:20 pm

    Thanks Pauline!
    Feel free to share the link with your family and friends.

  • Imani Posted February 22, 2017 7:18 pm

    Very inspiring. I was a stay at home mom for about 3 years of the 5 years I have had my daughter. I share with you the pain of losing a child as it has happened to me too. I work on a very flexible schedule mostly when my child Is at school and I hope to be with her consistently till she is at least 13.

    All the best gal

    • Joyce Mwangi Posted February 27, 2017 10:53 am

      Thanks gal! Let’s keep raising them up, its only for a short time and they’ll be able to stand on their own.

      And thank you for sharing the links, I appreciate.

  • Patricia Posted February 23, 2017 6:18 am

    Very nice and honest read Joyce.

    • Joyce Mwangi Posted February 27, 2017 10:54 am

      Thanks beautiful!

  • Lucas Posted February 24, 2017 6:34 pm

    Being a stay at home parent; homeschooling etc is a tough job. Walking my kids through their homework for 30 minutes is more tiring than two hours at my work. To be honest with you, I couldn’t manage it. Lakini don’t download the whole MDiv BS on the kids. Have mercy!

    • Joyce Mwangi Posted February 25, 2017 3:15 am

      Lucas, my dear friend.

      Thanks for your comments. I have been working on teaching them Hebrew for starters hahahahahaha!!! Will let you know how that goes.

  • Kibui Posted February 25, 2017 3:55 am

    You write well!!! Those questions you are asked come in many forms- hah!! I like house keeping part! I shall keep reading, good stuff.

  • Leah Posted February 25, 2017 4:06 am

    Oh wow! I envy you Joyce. It’s a privilege to spend most of your time with your kids and be the primary caregiver.
    I would love to hear how the homeschooling experience would be,honestly I think its tough.
    Baraka dadangu.

  • Joan Posted March 23, 2017 10:25 am

    The article was a great read. You are doing an amazing job with the kids and based on our brief interactions over the last two months I can tell that you walk with God. Never do you seem frazzled or rushed. Being a full time mom is nothing short of a blessing. May you cherish it.

    • Joyce Mwangi Posted March 25, 2017 5:14 pm

      Awwww Joan. Thanks for your kind words

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